Tot Ziens: A Bittersweet Farewell

Hello, for the last time!

Wow. Time flies. This post is written in a bittersweet tone as I have left the Netherlands. My views on practically everything have changed. This trip offered me valuable lessons I would likely never have learnt otherwise. For example, I will never use Deutsche Bahn transportation services for as long as I live. 

Me in front of a church. Spot the pride flag?

Perhaps the most important changes from this trip are the ones from within. I used to be strongly anti sex work. I felt as though it was coercive and patriarchal. While this may be true in places like the United States, where sex work is illegal, this is not the case in the Netherlands. From our conversations with Lucy and Brenda, I saw the freedom of choice within the sex work industry that the United States lacks. These free choices are the result of a combination of things that ultimately stem from a place of pragmatism and general compassion (which the Dutch have tenfold compared to the U.S.). Most of the interactions I’ve had with sex workers in the United States are bleak-desparation masked by women’s empowerment. It seems that the main drive for sex workers in the U.S. is an avoidance of bankruptcy, whereas in the Netherlands, especially in Amsterdam, it is more of a choice. In a country where a medical emergency won’t bankrupt you, the ability to choose is much stronger. I’ve become an ardent defender of sex work legalization. These women are treated as entrepreneurs rather than as sob stories. This is evident in their requirement to register with the Chamber of Commerce and hold a valid passport every day they work (Majoor, 2015). Furthermore, condoms, lube, and part of the window workers' rent are tax-deductible.

Normalization of sex work and sex in general is a major tenet in Dutch culture. In parenting, children are seen as autonomous, almost like mini-adults. Their sexual activity and alcohol consumption are normalized in a safe and accepting way, which makes Dutch adolescents feel more comfortable as their bodies change during puberty (Schalet, 2004). Normalization is used in Dutch culture to ensure their comfort in their bodies. The United States often takes the opposite approach. Many parents demonize sexual activity and alcohol use. This is reflected in the sex education curriculum the United States has, which preaches abstinence above all else. This method is highly ineffective and accomplishes nothing. As stated in Ott and Santelli (2007), the United States has the highest adolescent birth rate in the Western world, with 42 births per 1,000 adolescents. In comparison, the Netherlands' adolescent birth rate is 5 births per 1,000 adolescents. This monumental gap is likely due to the education and access that Dutch adolescents receive in comparison to American adolescents. One of our class speakers, Dr. Linda Duits, says that birth control is free and accessible for Dutch teens who are 15 years or older. This kind of community support is what allows Dutch adolescents to explore their sexuality in a safe and caring environment-something the United States lacks. 

A beautiful piece of architecture that I'll be sad to leave behind.

Healthcare accessibility is truly what sets the Dutch miles (or kilometers) ahead of the United States in terms of overall quality of life. In a country where medical protections are never guaranteed, it’s hard to imagine having universal healthcare that covers gender affirming surgery. We had the opportunity to talk with a historian who focuses on transgender healthcare and accessibility. As a trans man himself, Alex Bakker could not fathom the United States’ healthcare and political systems. He said it reminded him of Berlin in the 1930s. This notion was quite terrifying to us, and as I prepare to reenter a country in shambles, it has become even more scary. Overall, the Dutch have an incredibly pragmatic approach to people in politics that has allowed them to thrive as one of the happiest countries in the world (World Population Review, 2024). I can only hope the United States adopts this same pragmatism, lest we fall into a situation that causes future historians to say “never again”. 

With pragmatism,

Claire💌

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References

Majoor, M. (2015). When Sex Becomes Work (Chapter 3, pp. 20-30). Prostitution Information Center

Ott, M. & Santelli, J. (2007). Abstinence and abstinence-only education. Current Opinion in Obstetrics & Gynecology, 19(5), 446-452. https://doi.org/10.1097/GCO.0b013e3282efdc0b

Schalet, A. T. (2004). Must we fear adolescent sexuality? Medscape General Medicine, 6(4), 1-18.

World Population Review. (2024). Happiest Countries in the World 2024. World Population Review. https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/happiest-countries-in-the-world

"I have acted with honesty and integrity in producing this work and am unaware of anyone who has not."

-Claire Adams

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Lucy in the Window with Condoms: Sex Work in the Netherlands

Hallo again!

This week has been a whirlwind! We visited Utrecht, Zans Schaanse, the Prostitution Information Center, and the Anne Frank House, all in one week. Bouncing around Amsterdam and the adjacent areas has offered valuable insight into the culture and attitudes of the Dutch. 

The windmills at Zans Schaanse!

Sex work is legal in the Netherlands, a policy that makes the country very popular for international tourists. You can walk down the red light district at almost any time of day and see advertisements for sex shows, sex workers in windows, and desserts that resemble genitalia (which are delicious!). While the general public has an understanding of sex work, we rarely get to hear the sex workers' points of view. Often, they are only reported on in third-party news articles. At the Prostitution Information Center, my class had the opportunity to sit down with a sex worker and ask about her experiences. Brenda, as she called herself in one instance, is a "sex assistant", someone who is hired as an escort for populations that typically do not have access to sex and sex workers (i.e., those who are disabled, need extra care, etc.). Brenda was previously a nurse, so she is better equipped to handle this demographic of clients than other sex workers. She sees clients who have mental disorders, Alzheimer's, are disabled, and even one who is 93 years old! She says that sex assistants often are perceived in a more positive light than those who work in the windows. There is a noticeable hierarchy within the industry. Her job is not often in jeopardy, and tends to be seen as "noble" or more respectable than others.

A poster outside the Prostitution Information Center

Lucy, on the other hand, has a much different experience. Lucy is another persona that Brenda takes on when she works in the windows. Window work is a type of sex work in which the sex worker will stand in the window of a rented room, acting as their own personal billboard. They have clients approach them and negotiate prices at the door (Majoor, 2015). This is a far cry from Brenda's sex assistant work, as Brenda works through an agency. Lucy is an independent entrepreneur. The hierarchy of sex work is evident in the discourse surrounding the location and presentation of the red light district. 1012 was a city-wide initiative in which real estate that housed brothels and coffee shops was purchased and turned into gift shops and other tourist attractions (Nugent, 2019). This project was implemented under the guise of making the city safer, but sex workers note that the project has made their job much harder to do. While the initiative has attracted more tourists, most just want to look at the workers in the window. This means potential customers are being pushed out, replaced by tourists who are not respectful of the workers' boundaries. There seems to be an idea amongst tourists that sex workers are in the window to be seen, so they shouldn't mind pictures being taken of them. According to Lucy, this is a dangerous misconception. Many of the workers in the windows have other jobs or are in situations where it would be potentially damaging to them if someone found out they also worked as a sex worker. Regardless, taking photos of the sex workers is highly intrusive, especially if the photographer has no intention of providing business. 

Overall, these workers are often overlooked in legislation, always spoken for but never to. It is time that the government starts listening to them, as they are key players in the economy. These workers are an integral part of Amsterdam's vibrant and open community and deserve more respect than they are afforded. 

So long for now, 

Claire💌

The aforementioned genitalia dessert

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References

Majoor, M. (2015). When Sex Becomes Work (Chapter 3, pp. 20-30). Prostitution Information Center.

Nugent, C. (October 30, 2019). Amsterdam's Red Light District is in crisis. https://time.com/5712420/amsterdam-red-light-district-change/

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-Claire Adams

Long Live Love?: Sex (Mis)Education in the Netherlands

Welcome back!

Consider my bubble burst. This week, we focused on sex education in the Netherlands. We covered topics like sexting, cultural differences, right-wing resistance, and more. I had high expectations for the sex education curriculum, given how sex positive the country is. Admittedly, the sex education is miles (or kilometers) ahead of the United States' sex ed, where it is not required in some states. 

According to Alford and Hauser (2011), the United States has a teen birth rate of 61.2%. That is more than four times the teen birth rate of the Netherlands (14.1%). Our guest speaker, Willemijn Krebbekx, posits that this phenomenon is because of three reasons: use of the contraceptive pill, sex education, and a general permissive attitude. These practices allow Dutch adolescents to feel safer and grant them more autonomy, giving them the freedom to be independent while still maintaining safety. Over 60% of Dutch women in a sample reported using the contraceptive pill (Alford & Hauser, 2011). The contraceptive pill is easily accessible; the only requirement is that you are 15 years or older and have a prescription. Additionally, the pill is completely free for everyone with insurance until users are 22 years old. The cost and ease of acquiring a prescription encourage Dutch women to use contraceptives, likely contributing to the low teen birth rate. How to access and use contraceptives is taught in most Dutch sex education classes. The open and honest nature in which the Dutch discuss sex ultimately leads to more positive attitudes towards sex and more pleasure during sexual activities (Brugman, Caron, & Rademakers, 2010). The permissive attitudes also play an important role in sexual health. Sex-positive ideas contribute to a healthier relationship between sex and adolescents feel less ashamed- they don't have to hide what they are doing.  As a result, young adults feel more comfortable talking about sex with their parents, which could promote sexual health and foster feelings of comfort during sex, rather than awkwardness or shame.

Dutch sex culture is not without its flaws, though. Due to the number of women in the Netherlands who are on the pill, the burden of contraception is unequal. Women are expected to be responsible for providing contraception, creating an unequal distribution of sexual responsibility. Furthermore, sex education is not always open and judgment-free in Dutch classrooms. Discussions around STIs and sexual consequences often encourage racism and homophobia in the form of microaggressions or social exclusion (Krebbekx, 2019). Students can weaponize information against their peers, applying the things they learned to stereotypes they already have in their minds. This kind of behavior has not yet been eradicated in Dutch schools. While they are much more open on the sexual front than their United States counterparts, they still have a long way to go in regards to other forms of equality. My bubble has burst, but it can be repaired. 

Looking forward to the future,

Claire💌

Picture from the Sex Museum, a testament to the openness in the Netherlands on sexuality.

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References

Alford, S., & Hauser, D. (2011). Adolescent sexual health in Europe and the US. https://advocatesforyouth.org/wp-content/uploads/storage//advfy/documents/adolescent-sexual-behavior-demographics.pdf

Brugman, N., Caron, S., & Rademakers, J. (2010). Emerging adolescent sexuality: A comparison of American and Dutch college women's experiences. International Journal of Sexual Health, 22, 32-46.

Krebbekx, W. (2020). What else can sex education do? Logic and effects in classroom practices. Sexualities, 22(7-8), 1325-1341. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1363460718779967

"I have acted with honesty and integrity in producing this work and am unaware of anyone who has not."

-Claire Adams

History of the Netherlands from Someone who has Never Studied the History of the Netherlands

Hallo from Amsterdam!

I have just completed my first official week here in the Netherlands, and it truly has been a beautiful experience! I am learning so many new things both academically and personally. For example, I am much better at navigating public transportation than I originally thought. Yay me!

A map of my beloved metro system.

Additionally, we learned about the history of the Netherlands this week. The country has not always been the accepting, free-loving, sexually open country we know and love today. In actuality, this version of the country only came into existence following protests from the 1960s and 1970s (Mijnhardt, 2010). Prior to this, the Dutch held very different views on sexual activity. Actions such as adultery or concubinage (the cohabitation of two people premaritally) were heavily criminalized, with some instances leading to execution (Rose & Heijmans, 2021). Furthermore, interpersonal relationships were strictly regulated. While there were no explicit laws against interracial marriages, there were harsh punishments for interracial sex (Rose & Heijmans, 2021). For example, sex between an unmarried European woman and a man of a different ethnicity could warrant the same punishment as adultery, despite no infidelity having taken place (Rose & Heijmans, 2021). 

Severe punishment did not apply to men who committed the same acts, however. Instances in which a European man had sex with a non-European woman were not punished to the same degree. We discussed this kind of double standard in my Sociology of Gender class. We focused more on the social aspects of infidelity, analyzing the ways in which people respond to infidelity in women compared to men. Women almost always faced more social ostracization. This double standard was exacerbated by race. Because enslaved people were seen as property rather than human beings, enslaved women were often subject to forms of sexual abuse with no legal protections (Beckles, 2004).  Her body was not her own, and she was therefore entitled to no rights or autonomy regarding herself. In some instances, men who enslaved women would provide their male guests with an enslaved woman overnight to have sex with (I would like to note here that I understand these instances are actually rape, but I say sex instead as it would not have been considered rape at the time). The strength of these women is inspiring, but their situation is equally devastating. I can only be grateful for the progress our society has made. Despite these horrors, there were still Black people who managed to work their way into positions of power. For example, Elisabeth Samson was a freeborn Black woman who inherited a coffee plantation from her partner, a wealthy German officer (Rose & Heijmans, 2021).

Overall, I have already learned so much from this trip, and I can't wait to learn and see more. Here's another thing I learned: some houses here are painted all black; this is because the black paint served as a warning to others that the house was infected, typically during the Black Plague. Because the houses are UNESCO World Heritage Sites, the outside facade cannot be changed, and the houses remain black to this day. 

Tot Ziens,

Claire💌

A photo from our canal tour! Notice the black houses? Spooky!

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References

Beckles, H. M. (2004). Perfect property: Enslaved Black women in the Caribbean. in E. Barrietau (Ed.), Confronting Power, Theorizing Gender: Interdisciplinary Perspectives in the Caribbean (Chapter 7). University of the West Indies Press.

Mijnhardt, W. (2010). A tradition of tolerance. In E. Beamusca & J. Verheul (Eds.), Discovering the Dutch, on culture and society of the Netherlands (Chapter 8). Amsterdam University Press.

Rose, S., & Heijmans, E. (2021). From impropriety to betrayal: Policing non-marital sex in the Early Modern Dutch Empire. Journal of Social History, 55(2), 315-344.

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Who Am I? Reflections on Identity Pre-Departure

If nothing else, I am curious to my core. I have always wanted to learn about everything and experience life as much as possible.  In elementary school, I would write questions on my hands to remind myself to ask the teacher about them later. In middle and high school, this habit transitioned to writing questions in my Notes app on my phone. In Dean Story's words, I am a Sponge. I seek to soak up as much knowledge and experience as I can because I know my opportunity to do it again may be limited. I love hearing different languages and exploring cultures different from my own. While I might not make it to every attraction, I explore the ones I do go to thoroughly and enjoy them just as much. Travel holds a special place in my heart; what a beautiful way to learn and grow!

While I am endlessly curious, I do have my limitations. For starters, I tend to stress about money (perhaps more than I should). I want to experience everything, but that can be hard to do on a budget. I have to learn to prioritize certain things. As a Sponge traveler, this can be difficult. I think that's the importance of learning who you are and what you value. Dean Story mentions being able to recognize when you are not acting in line with your values or character. Knowing who you are allows you to better understand your limitations, which can be essential in an unfamiliar environment. One of the things I value most is transparency. I think communication is integral to any successful relationship, but communication means nothing if you aren't being honest. I always appreciate knowing what's going on-I can only "go with the flow" for so long. I do not like feeling uncertain or misinformed, especially in a country where I am unfamiliar with the native language. In my opinion, transparency is fundamental to the success of this trip.

From this experience, I hope to gain more knowledge about culture and human sexuality. I look forward to learning about the Netherlands' stance on human sexuality, and I imagine it will be refreshing considering how restricted parts of the United States can be about sex and sexuality. Here in the U.S., I really enjoy the arts and all things creative. I am so excited to explore all of the museums that Amsterdam has to offer! Van Gogh was my favorite artist for a large portion of my life, so I am beyond stoked to be able to go see his museum. I have a keepsake box with his Irises painted on top. Overall, Europe has a fascinating history, and Amsterdam is no exception. I absolutely cannot wait to explore the city and see all it has to offer! I guess I truly am a Sponge.

Part of the breathtaking Palace of Versailles, from my last adventure.

See you abroad!

Claire💌

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About Me!

Hi, there!

My name is Claire Adams, and I'm a Sophomore Psychology and Sociology double major at Southwestern University. This summer, I will be traveling to Amsterdam with a group of psychology students to learn about human sexuality and sexual communication, and this blog will be where I document my experience. A little about me: I love to read, I'm passionate about music and social justice, I play the drums, and I'm going to turn 20 while in Amsterdam! My mom used to work for American Airlines, and I am a seasoned traveler thanks to her. This will be my first time traveling overseas alone (and my second time traveling overseas at all). I speak no Dutch, so I imagine the Internet will be my best friend in terms of communication. I am queer, and am super excited to attend a drag show in Amsterdam and learn more about queer culture as a whole. I have a crazy cat who I will be sad to leave behind, but I'm sure the experience will be worth it. I will be sure to give him so many kisses before I go. I am BEYOND excited to participate in this once-in-a-lifetime program, and I can't wait to share it with y'all.

More adventures to come!

-Claire 💌